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Timeline – May 7th, 2018

This is the day my dad built up enough strength, had his psychotic break, or just went back to normal. I only included things of our timeline that relate to dealings with him. Up till this day, we still made time for our own lives, up until he called, we were looking forward to dinner with each other, up until I saw him, we had plans seeing our grandkids on Wed night.

On may 7th at 3:51 our life changed and was 100% his, until we felt safe, we had no lives. My father, the emotional vampire he is, consumed all our time, every minute of it, even in our dreams, nightmares, he was there.

  • 9:27 am – Katina: has done the following so far this morning,
    • scheduled with the home inspector for dad’s house
    • scheduled our roofer to look at dad’s house
    • scheduled for the trash we piled in the garage to be picked up tomorrow
    • Left message with Trust attorney
  • 10:08 am – Katina: Makes plans with daughter in law to clean up the nasty stuff off my dad’s desk in his house and for me to bring him the clean desk Tuesday.
  • 10:07-1:41 pm – Katina: orders renters insurance for my dad.
  • 11:05-11:22 am- Cliff/Katina/Stephany: work on and figure out how to get PoA to Dodge and Cox for the trust.
  • 11:16 am – Cliff: I stop by and deliver some clothes and misc items from my dad’s house to his apartment.
    • when I arrive all the lights are off and the blinds are closed.
    • he was dressed and getting ready to see his primary care doctor
    • he was talking to his oldest brother on the phone
    • I took a short video, cause I am concerned with the condition of how he is living. Hoping that we can get him help in time
  • 11:54 am – Cliff: sends an email to a client/friend making the following statement
    • “Katina and I and family are doing great! Nothing we cant handle!”
      • Was this me challenging the universe in some way?!
  • 12:00-3:30 pm – Marty: did the following:
    • The living facility bus driver gave him a ride to his new primary care doctor
    • When the driver came back to pick him up, Marty threw a fit and cursed and yelled at the bus driver.
    • Took a cab to battlefield
    • unknown how he got his cat to Battlefield this day
    • wrote a check for cash at the bank for an amount of $420
    • withdrew $200 from an ATM
  • 12:37-1:39 pm – Cliff/Nove: Uncle Nove shares with me his view as to my dad’s mental state.
  • 2:14 pm – Cliff/Katina: Email Trust attorney about the progress of  trust
  • 2:23 pm – Cliff: First time I have eaten all day, I reward myself with a beer at lunch.
  • 2:41-3:10 pm – Larry/Cliff: Larry and I go over Trust details via phone
  • 3:16 pm – Cliff: contacted my CPA we are using for trust to contact me and go over procedures on the best way to transfer assets into Trust.
  • 3:51 pm – Voicemail from Crazy:
  • 4:00 pm – Cliff: I try to call my dad via the phone he called Katina from earlier, no answer. Fuck I lost him.
  • 4:03 pm – Cliff/Katina: I text Katina to cancel my scheduled meeting with an important client and his vendor. I start driving to Battlefield, MO.
  • 4:04 pm – Cliff: I call the battlefield Police department to have them meet me at the house, to help me manage the situation.
  • 4:07 pm – Cliff: I call a friend that lives close and request he meets me there as well, just in case.
  • 4:07 pm – Katina: sends me a text “I let him know something came up, he totally understood. I am scared and worried..”
  • 4:10-4:30 pm – Cliff: Got to my dad’s house…will fill this in with a blog post too many details
  • 4:37- pm – Cliff/Nove: Called My uncle while driving away from the house in Battlefield. I break apart and start crying uncontroably while on the phone pull off under and overpass on the highway and finish the call.
  • 4:51 pm -Cliff: Called another Lawyer and asked for protection orders and was on my way to see them.
  • 5:04 pm – Cliff/Larry: Trust attorney calls me to get an update as to where things are, I inform him it has taken a turn for the worse. He suggests Katina and I get Orders of protection. I inform him I already started the process
  • 5:10 pm- Katina/Cliff: she calls me to let me know she is taking our youngest son, dogs off our property and locking up and leaving.
  • 7:10 pm – Katina/our family: she takes our kids out to dinner trying her best to make the best of a bad situation.
  • 7:11-7:22 pm – Cliff/Nove: I update Nove that we are safe via phone call
  • 8:52-9:15 pm – Cliff/Mom’s family: returned their call and I update them that everyone is safe and we have done what we can tonight.
  • 9:24 pm – Cliff/Marlena: I text Marlena to call me when she can.
  • 9:25 pm – Stephany/Cliff: text to me stating she talked to dad for 1 minute exactly before he hung up. he is at back at the independent residence facility.
    • This is alarming to us, Stephany has always been able to talk him down before. Always.
  • 9:36-9:56 pm – Marlena/Cliff: Marlena tells me she talked to Dad and is threatening towards me. She tried to talk him down, explaining how what I am doing is in his best interest. He hung up still seeing me as the enemy.
  • 9:47-9:55 pm Cliff/Stephany: I recap the day with Stephany and wish her a good nights sleep
  • 10:38-11:20 pm – Cliff/Nove: I talk to my dad’s oldest brother, my uncle before I try to get some sleep.